The self loathing obese man
Independent opinion by Donald K. Burleson
Last week I was
in a crowded elevator with a giant fat person.
When her floor came up, she hollered “This is my floor”, and everyone
parted to allow her to exit. But
that was not good enough for her.
With an air of self-entitlement in her voice, she shouted at us:
off the elevator and let me out”!
Everyone froze. My fellow passengers
were too shocked to move, and nobody was about to get off the elevator and risk
someone else taking their spot.
Her self-entitled tone made me angry, and I looked her right in
the eye and said:
“How about you lose 300
She just sneered
at me, turned sideways and squeezed past us, but as the elevator door shut, everyone erupted in
laughter and agreed with me that a ginormous fat woman has no rights to make special
demands of people in public places.
I was happy to
know that I’m not alone in recognizing that obesity is willful misconduct, and
morbidly obese people are not entitled to any special treatment.
constitute an ongoing safety hazard to the public, violating FAA regulations on
aircraft, blocking passageway and exits in public spaces and violating a host of
state and local fire safety regulations.
Case in point,
here is a woman who I noticed because she was shouting at the top of her lungs
for an attendant to take her into the ladies room.
In the photo below you can see her and the attendant, approaching with a large
wiping rag in his left hand.
As you can see,
she has allowed herself to get so fat that she can no longer walk without the
aid of a wheelchair. and she is obviously is too fat to reach her own anus.
I shudder to think what the attendant will do with the white cloth that he is
carrying in his left hand.
As she was
wheeled into the narrow passageway, she completely blocked it, preventing any
passengers inside from escaping.
Some obese people requires assistance to take a dump
condemn me for being a heartless meanie, let’s be perfectly clear that I am
obese, and like most, I have suffer from a legitimate medical condition that
predisposes me to morbid obesity.
Obesity and disability access rights
Call me a
self-loathing obese person if you like, but I work very hard to control my
obesity, and I know that my fellow obese people can do the same, even when the
obesity is attributed to medical conditions.
I'm a self loathing obese person
several hallmarks of childhood obesity and food obsessions that can only be
attributed to physical problems, and I have them all:
Naming pets after food
– Obese kids will commonly name their pets after foods!
In 1961 we got a family cat, and I named her after my favorite breakfast
cereal (“Twinkle”, a star-shaped sugary cereal, a precursor to Fruit Loops).
Dreaming about food
– I have vivid dreams about food, with visions of cheeseburgers dancing in my
Obsession with food
– When I saw the movie “Julie and Julia” I cringed because as a child I bought
the Julia Child cookbook and tormented my poor parents with pate and other nasty
So you see, I’m
one of those obese people who can honestly claim to have a “medical reason” for
my obesity, yet I know that it does not absolve me of my personal responsibility
to control my weight.
I’m like a dog, always thinking about my next meal, and never satisfied until my
stomach is full (with is why the gastro surgeries work, by sending false signals
to the brain).
I do not allow
my medical condition to impede my mobility and I do not ask for any special
treatment not disabled status. I
know firsthand that morbid obesity is wholly preventable, and
willful misconduct should never constitute a disability.
The culture of the victim
Read on and it
will become clear why having a medical excuse for your obesity does not matter.
Whether constant food cravings are caused by loneliness or a brain
conditions, it does not absolve the person from their personal responsibility to
control their cravings.
liberal society, everybody is the victim of some disease and nobody will take
responsibility for their own actions, especially when they can find some
physical reason to explain their ginormous food cravings.
food depravation is uncomfortable and painful, it's been proven to work.
When obese people lie to me and say that they never overeat and that their 500
pound bulk is due to a glandular condition, I remind them that there were no fat
people in The Nazi concentration camps.
As a society,
it’s time we stopped this charade that alcoholics and obese people are somehow
the blameless victims of disease without any control over their destiny.
getting fatter than ever, and more and more of them are trying to make people
believe that their compulsion to eat a whole bucket of KFC makes them disabled.
If you eat less than you burn and exercise, you will lose weight, I
personally guarantee it.
under the ADA
people are trying to get coverage under the Americans with Disabilities Act, and
as an obese person myself, I strongly oppose it.
I do not believe that people with unchecked addictions to any substances
should be entitled to any special treatment under the law.
Obese people are
filing all sorts of claims against providers of public places of accommodation,
claiming that the public at large should be required to give them special
treatment, benefits like free double-seats and free upgrades to first-class on
aircraft. When denied, they claim
that their rights under the ADA have been violated.
Let's be fair and make people "carry their own weight"
morbidly obese people, while they have a self-inflicted disability, are not any
more disabled than a practicing alcoholic or drug addict, and they have control
over their own destiny.
food – This is how I control my obesity, by eating huge amounts of
vegetables and fruits, enough to make my stomach stop sending the food
your mouth shut – Oprah has recently touted the benefits of eating
through a straw as a sure fire way to lose weight
Gastric Bypass – This procedure works by limiting the capacity for
food and fooling the brain into stopping the hunger signals. But it is major
surgery and very risky. Our maid's
nephew got a gastric bypass that went horrible wrong, and had to have his entire
digestive system transplanted from a cadaver. It takes a lot of guts
to do a complete digestive
band surgery – Lap band surgery is free for morbidly obese people
under Medicaid and Medicare, and it is covered under most medical insurance
It’s quite sad
that tens of thousands of Americans would rather die than undertake the surgery
that limits their caloric intake.
Don’t buy the crap from morbidly obese people about how their medical condition
makes it such that they cannot lose weight, it’s simply not true.
Obese people often need "enablers" to stay fat
way that we can help these people is to confront the core issue; that grossly
obese people suffer the consequences of their own misconduct, their conditions
can be easily cured.
conditions and genetics do not make obesity a disability
2009, Cambridge professor Sadaf Farooqi discovered a genetic predisposition to
childhood obesity that is attributed to a missing chunk of DNA in chromosome 16.
This missing DNA removed a gene that the brain needs to control leptin, a
hormone that governs appetite control, causing the child to feel overpowering
But despite physical components like this, society uses a more common sense
The Veterans Administration considers addictions (food, alcohol, drugs) to
be “willful misconduct, not covered b y veterans benefits.
American Physicians overwhelmingly voted that
obesity be not considered a disability, at their 2009 annual meeting of
the American Medical Association.
laws, it’s the public at large that needs to start helping the obese by becoming
intolerant, just the same way that society did with cigarette smokers, an
approach that saves thousands of lives.
constitute a public safety hazard
I believe that
obese people should not be allowed to impose a safety hazard upon the general
– People who block passageways in
stores are violating fire safety laws.
– The wrongful accommodation of obese
passengers as disabled people has led to numerous safety hazards, violating a
number of FAA regulations. They
don’t fit into the seats, and airline employees have a great deal of contempt
for their ridiculous demands. The
airlines even have a derogatory name for obese passengers, they call them
– The cruise ship operators do not understands that obese people are not
disabled, and further, they constitute an ongoing safety hazard to their fellow
obese people take away resources that should be reserved for legitimate disabled
The Obese in
places of public accommodation
It’s obscene to
even consider making store proprietors create special triple-wide crappers to
accommodate 500 pound fat people in wheelchairs, yet every year the Department
of Justice receives complaints from obese people, demand that the public pay for
special accommodations for them because they lack personal self-control.
I volunteer my
time working with the blind and I don’t like it when fat people demand disabled
parking stickers, especially since they are the people who would benefit the
most from walking across the parking lot.
I see an obese person using a disabled parking space I confront them by putting
a note on their windshield expressing my displeasure their gall to think that
eating themselves into a wheelchair somehow entitles them to special treatment.
I don’t confront them directly anymore, because I learned long ago that
morbidly obese people do not respond to kindness, only open contempt will
It time for
store to start vigorously enforcing fire safety laws and not allow super-fat
people into stores if they block the passageways.
I propose that all stores and restaurants start using signs like they do
in amusement parks:
Signs like these will help store owners adhere to fire safety codes
If the obese are
successful, American business owners must spend billions of dollars making
special access considerations for obese people, widening aisles in stores, and
costing the taxpayers far more money than it would cost to cure every single
obese person in America.
rights on cruise ships
With over 50,000
Americans cruising the high seas on any given week, I see obese people clog
cruise ship passageways with their fat people scooters, and many of them reek of
body odor because they are too fat to fit into the stateroom showers.
Being trapped on an elevator with an obese person can be a life-changing
started gagging because of the festering smell of a giant obese woman, a lady
who refused to pay for a suite large enough to allow her to cleanse herself.
If obese people cannot pay for the accommodations that they require, they
should not be allowed to travel, and the cruise lines need to stop giving them
I’ve been given
a Royal Caribbean stateroom that was adjacent to a “disabled” cabin for a
super-fat person, and I was dismayed to find that they made my room smaller so
that the morbidly obese person could have more free space for their massive
people violate ship safety regulations because their extra-wide wheelchairs
block the passageways and the cruise lines need to wake-up and stop
accommodating obese people.
A few years ago,
one of my Vice Presidents (John Garmany) related a story where he had a middle
seat between two Shamu’s, and the actual middle space was only a few inches.
There was no other seat on the plane, and being a West Point trained Army
Ranger, he was used to tolerating abuse, so he shoehorned himself into the tight
spot, with the fellow obese people folds of fat covering most of his torso.
Upon departure, John said that his shirt was covered with their sweat.
It’s high time
that the airlines start telling these obese passengers that they have to “carry
their own weight”. I’m obese, but I
don’t impose by own poor health upon the travelling public, and if I pay for an
extra wide seat, so should my fellow whales.
But it’s not
only about paying for personal comfort; there is a serious FAA safety issue
here. Witness this photograph taken
by an airline attendant, showing how obese people block passageways on aircraft,
against FAA regulations.
Obese passengers may violate FAA safety regulations
I was recently
on a transatlantic flight and two Shamu’s (A “Shamu” is a
derogatory term used among flight attendants to refer to obese airline
passengers). I’m a licensed FAA
pilot, and I know that the weight of a passenger is directly proportional to the
cost of travel, so fat travelers should be made to pay by the pound, just like
they are doing with luggage.
You know those
metal contraptions where you place your overhead bag to see if they fit?
They need to start making seat size testers for obese passengers.
disability rights in the workplace
I’ve been a
manager for decades, and I’ve heard every possible excuse that employees come-up
with to excuse their own indiscretions.
They overeat because their spouse does not love them, they weigh 400
pounds because of a rare gland condition, and so on, ad nauseum.
It’s sad, this trend where Americans are unwilling to accept any
responsibility for their own willful misconduct.
Stores and workplaces should not have to pay to accommodate huge people
often write-up a fat or drug-abusing employee for their bad work behavior,
rather than confront the root cause.
When confronted with their own misconduct, alcoholics, drug abusers and
obese employees will dish out and endless stream of threats, excuses and
rationalizations. I’ve known
several managers who have fired people for poor work performance because they
did not want to put-up with the “It’s not my fault” nonsense that alcoholics and
food addicts are famous for.
mangers are well-aware that excessive weight causes poor work performance.
I’ve known several soldiers who ate themselves into a medical discharge,
back when the Army would award honorable discharges to people to eat too much.
Being cruel to be kind
I’ve lost many
friends over the years to obesity, and I can attest that kindness, pestering and
cajoling rarely works. Having been
there myself, I know that it takes considerable commitment and fortitude to stop
overindulging, but it’s not impossible, and I’ve seen it done many times.
For their own
good, it’s high time that society stops tolerating the obese and sends a loud
and clear message that overeating is not a disability.
The problem with
obesity is that the person is often unwilling to put-up with the almost
unbearable discomfort that is required to get the monkey off of their back.
It’s cruel, but
social ostracism and open disapproval is the most effective way for obese people
to start controlling their weight.
For evidence, we need look no further than the repressive anti-smoking campaigns
that were designed to inconvenience and embarrass smokers.
The ends justify the means, and hundreds of thousands of lives have been
saved these draconian methods of social abuse.